LOVE—THE HUGE ASS TRAGEDY!!

PART II

(=> IF YOU HAVENT YET READ PART I, HERE IS THE LINK TO IT <=)

https://raventeen.wixsite.com/raventeen/post/love-the-huge-ass-tragedy

Last week I started this blog with a punchy and cranky topic which mostly none of us talk about. Here I am with the second part to the blog series:

Love — The Huge Ass Tragedy!!

• In Part I, I talked about how we need to get the fuck over the dullness and weak foundation of teenage relationships and I also gave some strong reasons to put yourself first at times. Today seems like a day to elaborate on another little issue arising from the previous blog. HOW TO REALLY GET PAST SOMEONE?

••• As I had discussed what the emptiness of a relationship results in, I wouldnt waste a blog repeating it. Let me get this straight, you gotta follow the "~BREAKUP CODE~" in order to successfully forget your cold hearted lover. (God, this sounds way more dumber than it should)

••• The Breakup Code. This code has some really huge ass changes and some petty sacrifices that you will have to make to start over, to get a clean slate once again. Nothing better than completely starting over.

••• RESIST RUN-INS!!

I know this may sound rather elementary, but this one is fucking important. "The very best way [to move on] is to eliminate all forms of contact, including meeting in person," says Dr. Gary Brown, a relationship expert. That means not planning a run-in at your local coffee shop or school or events. Rearrange your schedule if you need to.

••• VISUALISE YOUR FUTURE (WITHOUT THEM)

In other words, imagine how good your life will be when you have finished grieving the loss of your ex. "The more details you can flesh out, the better your chances of bringing your new vision to life," says Brown. Make a vision board of what you want for your future if it helps.(trust me It helps more than it looks like it does)

••• DONT CONTACT THEM. SERIOUSLY.

This is a big one. Initiate a no-contact rule until you have done your grieving and moved on to a place of acceptance that it is over. "As long as you can rationalize there is even a glimmer of hope that your ex still has feelings, has concern for how you are doing or wants to hear about what is going on in your life, you will not be able to break the cycle of obsession," says Coleman.

You gotta cut him/her off completely. No lose ends and no CAN-WE-GET-BACK-TOGETHER-PLEASE / I-MISS-YOU dramas for your own sake.

••• DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF!

While you might feel like your world has ended and you'll never get over your ex, you will. I recommend writing a bucket list of everything you want to do before you settle down and start doing them. Most people get married multiple times, experience multiple relationships and fall in love over and over again. Teenage relationships are a little less huge than a divorce. The world hasn't ended because your relationship did.

••• ASK YOUR FRIENDS TO SUPPORT YOU.

There is nothing wrong with asking your friends to encourage you to stop talking to or about your ex. Instead, ask them to encourage you to lick your wounds and take steps to move on with your life.

••• I was planning on recommending getting off social media, but that's something I personally can never do. So ain't gonna suggest something none of us can handle doing.

••• You are stronger than your asshat ex and you should know that

Okay now enough of the wingman lecture... I gotta binge netflix.

With Love,

-sarthak